Josh—the other Josh—mentioned or at least suggested that gynecologists must receive some sort of sexual satisfaction while being in the profession they are in. I completely agree or suggest they do. My good friend’s father is married to a woman whose ex-husband is in jail for defiling several women at his gynecologist practice. Yes of course not all male gynecologists rape their patients; however, no matter how professional a gynecologist is, it does not extinguish his sexual instincts. For whatever reason a guy would want to go to med school to be a gynecologist is beyond me. I take that back, more than likely he is not psychologically secure and wants to view the female anatomy to fill a void—whatever that may be. In addition, consider this scenario: You as a male are a gynecologist, and have five patients for the day. One of your patient’s is young and absolutely gorgeous. Honestly, most males would look forward to examining this patient…how could it be any different than watching the same girl in a porn flic, the anticipation, the adrenaline rush of wanting to see her naked and knowing that you are going to?
So this is how I sympathize. I do not trust male gynecologists, and if I was a female, I would seek a woman in this profession. I have had three close girlfriends in the past. They all have been to a male gynecologist, and I expressed my concern with that. At times it would lead to an argument that I was jealous, insecure and over concerned. However, I have relayed to all them what I have written above, and it has at least made them re-think going to a male to view, touch and manipulate their reproductive organs. In other words I try to offer a male perspective on the situation, more specifically that you cannot erase that primal sexual instinct from a male.
I understand that not all females will see things from my perspective, and that they will have different reasons for having a male over a female gynecologist. For example some may feel more self-conscious with a female. I guess what the clincher for me is whenever my significant other of the time goes to the gynecologists who is a male, I struggle to get the images and thoughts out of my mind of my buddy’s dads wife’s ex-husband; It bothers the hell out of me. Sympathetic or insecure, I think it is more that I actually cared about the well-being of my ex’s, and wanted to help protect what was and still is sacred of theirs. So will I understand what it is like to be a female? Of course not! However, I am a male, and I know the dark side of men—more so because I am in the military—that means I can somewhat understand the sexual prowess of men that females are often exposed to, and a victim of.
Domalski, Josh
Josh,
ReplyDeleteA lot of interesting comments here. Is it completely outside the realm of possibility that a man would want to become a gynocologist because he truly respects and wants to help women? To suggest that male gynocologists receive some sort of sexual pleasure from their jobs also implies that all male gynocologists are heterosexual. Would not it be discriminatory to disallow an individual from practicing a certain medical specialty on the basis of gender? Does this suggest that men can never truly understand women's experiences--and by extension that we can never understand the experiences of those who are "different" from us?